"I have a headache, I'm tired..." - These are just some of the excuses used by women and men not wanting to tell their partner directly that they simply don't want to have sex. These reasons, as well as more serious illness, personal problems or even indigestion, can happen, but such a temporary indisposition does not immediately mean a drop in libido.
Why is my drive falling? What kills my libido?
The reasons for the libido drop can be many. Starting with the simplest ones to eliminate as lack of sleep, bad diet, to systemic diseases, which require specialized treatment.
If the diseases are chronic, the pharmacological therapy may also have a negative effect on our libido. Medicines, although their effects and foreseeable side effects are bold on every package or information leaflet, often react unexpectedly.
Drugs first have an impact on our hormonal economy, especially on those we use for lowering blood pressure or psychotropic drugs that are becoming more and more popular. In males, they reduce testosterone production and, as a result, libido. In women, where also some adrenal glands are able to produce this hormone, some disorders can also occur, resulting in unwillingness to have sexual intercourse with a partner, apathy and stasis.
Stress at work? No more petting.
Undoubtedly, the huge impact on our mood in the evening is usually influenced by the work we do every day. We spend most of our time in the office, factory, car or even at home during the day, so it shouldn't surprise anyone that work-related problems can also affect our bedroom. It can also be caused by our situation, whether it is material, social or personal.
We should not be ashamed of lowered potency (called hypolibidy) because, as research has shown, this problem affects even one in three women and one in four men. It is worth to be aware of this and not to wait with seeking help, because, unfortunately, the reluctance to have sex will not pass by itself. Many people, especially after menopause and andropause, simply underestimate the problem, considering it natural that burnout sooner or later appears in a relationship. Well, it's not always the trouble in the bedroom that makes us burn out. The low level of libido also causes unexplained disputes or hidden grievances towards the partner. In such a situation, too, we should be honest for a moment and have a serious conversation. If the conversation is difficult and you cannot come to a rational conclusion, think about the help of a sexologist. Such visits can help to resolve many misunderstandings.
What to eat to raise the libido level?
Scientists have been checking the influence of certain factors on libido for many years. Here are some of their observations about the well-known products, which, as the research has shown, have a good influence on the quality and good mood during intercourse, for both women and men:
- Chocolate - delicious, melting in the mouth, with various flavors, for centuries has been treated as the queen of sweetness, but also one of the most stimulating aphrodisiacs. After consuming it, the level of dopamine, commonly known as the hormone of happiness, increases in the brain, and the bioflavonoids contained in it have a good effect on blood vessels, which supports blood circulation. On the other hand, sugar contained in chocolate can add the necessary energy to love games.
- Wine (red) - also increases the level of libido, dilates blood vessels and increases blood supply to key areas of stimulation.